I’m very proud to be African American, and I wear it on my sleeve.
It has to be someone of a different race who is not going to say to me, ‘Well, aren’t you being a little sensitive about this or that?
It would have to be that dude, and I haven’t met him yet [laughs]. He was asking me if I wanted to get married and I said, ‘You know, I would like to.” And I said, ‘What about you? But what I’ve learned about myself is that, I like who I am, even moreso now that I’ve come to this place and this way of thinking., I wanted to have kids and I was thinking about doing it on my own. So if that means I’ll never have kids, I’m okay with that. and get a condo with the friends in Florida, whatever, but just stop playing.
We don’t really give a lot of thought to, ‘who am I really compatible with? ’ And he said, ‘No, because my ex-wife and I decided that we didn’t want to have anybody else raising our kids.’ And right then and there I said ‘Uh uh, I don’t want to date him.’ But if I met him now, I would still date him. If you listen to our dialogue, what I am saying is that ‘if I ask you as a friend to have a baby with me, would you do it? But I’ve come to the realization that for me, it won’t work. You don’t want sit there and wait for a man to come along to make some kind of plan, and if he comes along then great.
2) Dating is a huge investment of time and sometimes money.