Switch up your routine so that you’re keeping yourself open to a wide range of people.
“If you go to a variety of different styles of places with different groups of friends,” Hardwick says, “you are much more likely to increase your potential to meet somebody romantically.” That’s the part that seems the hardest — actually getting out into the world and interacting with different people. It’s the same as working out a muscle — you’ve just got to work at it until it’s strong.
It goes without saying that you shouldn’t bug anyone who seems like they want to be left alone, but if someone returns your gaze in a friendly way — and you’re feeling particularly brave — try tossing out a hello, Harwick says.
You may be surprised to find that they continue the conversation, leaving you with little to do but follow along.
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