Finding love can be hard, but when most systems are set up for people who aren't like you, it's even harder.
Being worried about transphobia is a very valid concern. Text your potential date and ensure they are accepting of trans people (especially nonbinary ones) by asking directly.
Just ask, don't try to outwit them or anything coy.
There are plenty of loving, accepting people that are willing to accommodate and embrace your identity.
Know that the odds are fairly likely that you will be experiencing transphobia while navigating your local scene.
Because I don't really date, most of my thoughts on dating have come from either before I knew I was aro, or as just passing thoughts on what dating would be like.